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If You Are Struggling in Your Marriage and You Commit To Following These 5 Steps, You Will Achieve a VERY Noticeable, Positive Improvement In Your Relationship, or Else You Can Prove Us Wrong.

Every struggling couple has felt what we felt …

Sadness ...

Stress...

Worry ...

We tiptoed around each other

Should we get divorced?

We had wanted to fulfill our big dream ...

  •  being married to our best friend
  • enjoying a happy and deeply connected marriage
  • And refusing to believe that there could be problems!

At least, that was the plan.

We knew that other people were having issues.

If we could just make my marriage feel like at the beginning…

Or even if we could just stop fighting all the time…

With that I would be so much happier.

A friend for life

Because we’d fulfill each other

 

We knew it wouldn’t be simple, but we liked to work hard.

 

Unfortunately though, we just couldn’t communicate.

We would argue over every single tiny thing.

 

And when we tried to get close we would hurt each other ...

 

We even started to sleep in a different room JUST to keep the peace

(what was the point of sharing a room anyway, we had no romance as it is?)

 

But, we kept the faith that things would get better...

We're optimistic by nature

We knew our marriage could be amazing again.

       ...if we could just talk to each other right...

As I stared at my spouse who was at one time my best friend I felt terrified

"Where had it all gone wrong?”

“This was supposed to be fun!”

“What on earth are you going to do now? Divorce?”

 

Was I really going to be able to love my spouse again and get this marriage to work?

I had only limited time…

We couldn’t deal with each other for more than a couple of weeks...

We only had a short time until we needed to make a decision.

And did not know even where to begin to get help.

 

But I knew that my marriage deserved better than that ...

 

So I bought a lot of books …

Read a lot of books

And spent lots of hours talking with friends and reading online …

Because some things are worth fighting for, right?




I spent tons of time trying to find the answer ...

Loads of contradicting advice …

 

I knew if this didn't work I would have to learn how to be a single parent and take my kids to lots of therapy...

I read more than 30 books…

And I follow the EXACT instructions they taught me...

And I learned…

I talked to my married friends...

I took their advice seriously…

But really, it was a lot of the same thing time and time again.

 

“Take out the garbage more often”

“Go on date night”

“Make her feel special”

“Your wife should always be right”..

 

Problem is…

When they did give me something new…

It didn’t address the core issues...it was just a bandaid to fix a small detail

It was overwhelming and frustrating that I couldn’t get clarity and real practical, fundamental advice …

To be bombarded with lots of surface level suggestions..

It could be about something tiny, like the silliest detail about compromising or complimenting my wife’s outfit…

Or tiny details on how to surprise her with a romantic dinner...

 

But what I really wanted to do is take ACTION.

I wanted to get my marriage on a solid foundation at the core level.

I knew we had baggage but didn’t know how to deal with it and not let it constantly sabotage our relationship…

 



I wasn’t a stupid person (I was a therapist for goodness sakes!)…

 I realized that I’d need to put in some time and effort to fix those issues in our marriage and in our pasts...

So, yes, I went ahead and started to explore self-help and personal growth materials...

I read them all …

 

I took them seriously …

But really, it was a lot of the same thing time and time again in different books.

And when they did give me something new …

It often did not apply to our own unique situation … and it was psycho-babble ...

It was overwhelming and frustrating …

 

To be bombarded with lots of theory ...

Or details on biochemical processes influencing behavior and stuff …

Again, interesting in theory  ...

But what I really wanted to do is take ACTION.

I wanted to start improving my relationship with my wife.

 

I was drowning in tips and advice about how to have a happy marriage in theory ...

Then the same tsunami of information hit me when I tried to learn about how I could work on myself to deal with MY issues outside of my marriage.

You can probably guess what happened when I started to look at how my own “stuff” and shared that with my wife…

 

Another irritation between us...

So yeah, every time I'd try to find a solution that promised TO BE THE ANSWER.

I'd start out enthusiastic...

I'd work day and night for as long as it took to do what they said...

And every time...

 

The marriage did not improve.

The trouble was that there were too many things to learn.

The steps became sophisticated and confusing…

 Even contradictory.

No way would I be able to improve our relationship following that advice...

So yes, every time I'd find a new “expert” ...

 

I'd start out enthusiastic...

seek their advice…

And say:

“oh no - not with my situation”
… or I’d try it and …

 And every time...

 … it just did not work

I kept looking. I knew there had to be a solution

In the end, I changed up my ideas and did something different...

Something dramatically different

Something that changed everything for myself & my wife…

 

I surprised myself (I’m still amazed I dared to do what I did)!

They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

 

So I had to change.

When the next helpful marriage article dropped in my inbox promising great results, I  did do something different.

I said NO.

I had realized, and could tell myself:

"You don't need more information..."

"You don't need more complicated tips..."

"You don't need to do more therapy..."

 

"You have to be able to take all the lessons you already have and make something of them.  Keep a few essential steps that will get things going NOW."

"It must be possible without weeks of studying, excessive analyzing, and talking to what looks like another happy couple."

 

So I dug out all those old books and notes from therapy and started looking at them again.

 I told myself to think critically…

To really analyze the information...

Hunting for the basic things they told me...

 

Like commitment, how to communicate, keep the romance alive...

Stripping it back to the bare bones like this helped me do something intelligent

When I analyzed all the material…

And all those processes ...

And the multitude of details…

I came to this crazy realization...

 

There were only 5 key elements to fixing a marriage...

 

All the married couples that claim to be happy can talk all day about their 70 other components.

And communication tricks, and tactics, and suggestions.

Sure they can fill articles…

And therapy sesions…

And even more courses to sell us...

Talking about all those bells and whistles.

 

But all you need to get started are five essential ingredients.

When I looked at these 5 elements I found something even more surprising...

It was only 5 steps, to get from zero to a happy marriage.

 

Not some pipe dream.

Suddenly it didn’t seem so bad.

I could do this in a matter of hours.

Not weeks, months or years… hours!

So I did just that.

 

I committed to my marriage and stopped doing the things that were taking us away from each other...

I stopped the criticism and the jabs…

I learned how to communicate and listen in a respectful way

And I began to infuse more love and positivity into our lives.

And I did it all thanks to just those 5 simple steps.

Incredibly, within a month I saw a shift in my wife’s behavior towards me.

I was blown away... MY FIRST real signs of hope. WHAT???

Each day we felt closer than before…

So of course, our marriage grew more SOLID.

Let’s be straight, we weren’t Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet in Titanic...

But I at least had a streak of positivity.

I could talk without blowups, share without being cut off, and even go out and have some fun.

Now that I had the heart of my marriage working…

I could start adding more of those bells and whistles.

I could do more to deepen our connection and feel closer...

AT LAST I had the basics for a solid foundation.

Now I could grow it.

 

There is one more thing that happened though.


It turned out to be the best thing of all.

I was no longer overwhelmed and defeated by all the complicated details.

then I had a solid foundation for which to grow a happy marriage.

That could keep us on the right track and progressing…

Being connected and having a happy home for our kids.

 

As I said, it was fairly quick, after a few times of practicing the system we were back in love.

And I had

My Wife...

My Marriage...

And my Peace of Mind

 

Within a week I had the marriage that was giving me so much grief FINALLY get calm and be the type of relationship that I had wanted when we first met...

So then I could work at it, and within a month it was even better...

Within the next 60 days it was amazing...

Having more fun…

Less negativity…

More compassion for each other...

And more productive communication.

 

At this point something hit me, really hard.

A lightbulb came on…

And I realized that…

 

I couldn't possibly be the only person who wanted a simple, foundational, and powerful strategy to fix their marriage and relationship struggles...

How many other people had felt overwhelmed and discouraged, just like me?

The avalanche of complicated information and time-consuming details was making it harder, not easier.

There must be a ton of people still stuck in the situation I was...

Desperate to have a stable marriage…

TAKING life’s challenges and conflicts…

 

And turning them into opportunities for greater connection and growth.

 

They want to do it QUICKLY.

They want to it as EASILY as possible.

I began turning my 5 step system into something for those people.

Married couples just like us.

I created a simple an easy strategy for THEM.

 

RESTORE your commitment and cut off energy leaks, refresh your marriage by eliminating negativity, respect each other in the way you listen and talk, and revitalize your relationship by infusing it with love.  

 

We all know that a happy marriage means STABILITY.

When you want true peace of mind this is what you need.

Sure, you can then GROW to whatever level you want…

But in the beginning you need to start having the basic ingredients for a working relationship that is not in crisis-mode.

With what I created…


I can guide you through the 5 steps.

Of course…

I can hold your hand the whole way (if you want me to).

I’ll show you everything to do…

Every step to take…

 

And you will never need to experience the frustration and disappointment that I did.

I tried the hard way, I wasted my time and $$$.

You don’t have to.

 

YOU can get your marriage up and running, with peace of mind, and stop going from therapist to therapist, to your friends and family for advice that often leads you down the path of divorce.

Have closeness and FULFILLMENT in your life.

With this, you won’t need anything else to get your marriage to that point…

Sure, there are lots more clever techniques…

Tricks and shortcuts you can add as your marriage starts taking off…

And it can grow faster than you thought possible.

I’ll even tell you about a lot them as I guide you through the process.

But first I will show you the simple way to consistently achieve connection and safety.

 

We will begin at the beginning, and get that RIGHT.

 

So you don't have to hunt for new strategies…

Or spend hours on the internet researching advice….

And spend more “quality” time with your partner. (without fighting on your vacation)

If you want that…

So you don't have to hunt for new methods, and teachers, and courses, and information ...

Or pay lots of money over and over ….

And you’ll have more time to enjoy living and even cuddling with your partner.

 

How does this happen? Read our book to find out...

 

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Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is a relationship expert and, along with his wife Rivka, is the co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project, a global initiative to help keep couples together and happy. Rabbi Slatkin is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, a Rabbi, and a father of 5. He is the author of The 5 Step Action Plan to a Happy & Healthy Marriage which has been been featured on CNN, NPR, Fox News, Huffington Post, and Psychology Today